Reddit question in forum “AITH,” (Am I the a**hole) Is this wife right or wrong?
“So I(26f) and my husband(32M) welcomed our baby boy about a year ago. It was my first pregnancy and honestly was pretty rough. The labour pain was incredibly severe. Still i wanted natural delievery so i went thru all of it. Due to the severe pain i couldn’t control and was screaming and crying. My husband, who hasn’t slept the whole night, got agitated by the screaming and said to me to “just try to suck it up a bit instead of screaming like this”. I honeslty cried because of his comment and the pain. The baby was born some hours later and we sort of forgot the incident.”
“Few days ago my husband felt sudden pain in his stomach and it only got more severe, to the point we had to take him to the hospital at that moment. The doctor did a few check ups and told he had kidney stone and needs treatment. Since the pain was so severe my husband got painkiller shots. Even during that he was screaming at the top of his lungs. At that moment i got petty, and since i was already fussy from sleeplessness due to taking care of a toddler, i said to my husband “can’t u just suck it up for a while. Why r u shouting so much”. He was shocked and then later remained quiet. When we went home he was still quiet and when asked he told how insensitive i was and he felt so bad. To this i reminded him of the time when he said the same thing.”
“Now he is angry and calling me petty and that he didn’t mean anything but i had malicious reasons. So AITA?”
“Edit- To all the people asking if we love each other? Yes we do. It wasn’t like i held onto what he said to me, however in that moment everything was so similar to that time that i remembered that incident and in the spur of the moment i said it to him. I did not ask him to go out of the delievery room or make a big deal about it that time because even tho i was hurt i understood his sentiments as well. Stress from work, sleeplessness, overwhelming feeling of being a parent for the first time and a constantly screaming wife can really mess with a person. I didn’t want to keep him away from being the witness of his child’s birth or ruin his later moments with the baby just because of that.”
“Was it a childish thing to say? Yes, but that does not mean we didn’t fulfil our responsibilities. He took care of me and did everything a dad should, and i did everything for him likewise. No we r not going to divorce each other for such silly banters😄. Its not like we always fight or act petty, if i wanted to be real petty then i could have done a lot of other things as well, but that wasn’t my intention. Yes we have childish conversations sometimes but they r usually funny banters. It is one of the very few times where i wanted to come and get some insight.”
“(UPDATE) Little update for u all since many jumped into craziest conclusions. I went to my husband and apologised. He said i don’t have to and he was not angry just embarassed. We talked about it and actually found it quite funny. Sure he was acting like he is angry, but that just means he rolled his eyes at me and had an expression like- “u serious😮💨?” So yeah he does not hate me neither do i hate him. I will be preparing a nice dinner for all since past days have been exhausting and my husband needs a good treat as well. So yeah nothing too crazy as some of u expected. Have a good day people.”
“Edit2- it wasn’t really about which pain is worse. Everyone has their own experiences. To everyone who shared their experiences, i hope u all r in better health now.”
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